About this blog

Hi! This is a blog focused on my new life since moving to Nakano, Tokyo with my Japanese husband in 2008. It includes my interests in male fashion and hair, male vanity and crime, male romance as created by women manga artists, ikemen and pop culture.

This blog’s mascots are the Nakano yankii, featured in the header photo taken at Sun Plaza. I am looking to many inspirations as I strive to become the best Japanese wife I can as an eager foreigner.

Please leave a comment or email me to tell me what you think!

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  1. Thanks, granny! I am enjoying your gossip blog, and particularly your fantastic news about Madonna’s song Miles Away being the theme song for dreamy Kimutaku’s new show “Change.” If only politicians could be so hot!

    Thanks for the complement about the avatar– my husband drew it.

    I can’t believe you are really a “superoldgranny,” but in any case I’ll keep reading your fun blog πŸ˜‰

  2. Hey, I’ve been wondering, do you have any posts/other blogs about what it’s like living as an openly gay, married man in Japan? I’d absolutely love to read something on it. Or maybe you know of any blogs of the sort?

  3. This blog is interesting! I’m glad it appeared in one of my tags. It’s not easy being a foreigner living in Japan but ganbatte! I’m heading over to Japan in a couple of months too.

    I’ll hang around this blog then! Oh, love the french bakery post! Thats what brought me to this blog, I was goggling antique bakery. =)

  4. I’m reading up on you for research. Just so you know, you’re life is my dream: husbands in Japan ^_^ Congratulations and thanks for being a public precedent!

  5. Thanks for reading my blog, gelangenie. My husband laughed when he read your comment. Are you looking for multiple husbands? Are you Mormon *and* Filipino? I think you meant Japanese husbands for everyone. Not a bad dream. Your photos of Easter penitents gave me some dirty thoughts. .

  6. Hey, I realized I forgot to answer your question about DBSK. Honestly, I don’t know why there’s DBSK and TVXQ, but I know that one’s popular in Korea (DBSK) and Tohoshinki is their Japanese name. DBSK stands for Dong Bang Shin Ki (I think….) and the TVXQ is their Chinese name, I think… I should look it up but I’m too lazy. Hahaha. So there you have it. I just call them DBSK.

  7. I came across your blog searching for Japanese men hairstyles. I really like your blog. I used to live in Japan and I wish to live there again. I need to find a way so I can make that happen :D. I’ll be checking out your blog daily so I can get my dose of some happenings in Japan πŸ™‚

    1. Two quick points for all my readers, both of which should be obvious to most of you. It helps, a lot, to be polite. And I am not interested in receiving emails from people I don’t know. I

      f you have a question, please use the blog comments and ask nicely.

  8. Hi!

    I love your blog! And you are blogging about my favorite subject–Japan! My dream country! I am happy that you are doing well in a land that is both foreign and enchanting!

    Hopefully, one day I’d be able to save money and set out for my ultimate adventure. For now, I am happy to look at Japan through your eyes–thanks to your insightful posts!

    Cheers and have a blessed day always!

    KamikazeeGirl πŸ™‚

  9. hi there! i am a relatively recent resident to nakano, and happened upon your blog while searching the net for some info on the ward. i enjoy checking in and seeing what’s going on in nakano, and around! i was wondering if you might be able to tell me where your lovely ceramics studio is? i’ve been thinking about taking some classes.

    thanks jared!

  10. I’m so sorry! In a moment of epic stupid I forgot where you live. I hope you & your loved ones are all alright.

  11. I need support with my male fashion concept…the SupraStyle Fashion. We need to bring back short shorts for guys. Let me know if this is possible.

  12. Hi there,

    I just read an article on discrimination that you posted a while back on your blog: https://jaredinnakano.wordpress.com/2012/09/07/obamas-democrats-support-lgbt-rights-in-convention-first/

    I thought you might be interested in a workplace infographic we just published, it’s titled ‘Discrimination and Dollars’, check it out: http://complianceandsafety.com/blog/workplace-infographic-discrimination-and-dollars/

    If you like it, feel free to publish it on your site.

    Thanks a lot,

    Matthew Pelletier
    Director of Public Relations
    C&S Safety Training Videos

  13. I think I’m going to have to follow this blog because its such a change in perspective from my Japanese life. Not often you find a foreign girl marrying a Japanese guy either

  14. Hi there, I’ve been following your blog for a little while and always enjoy it! (I used to live in Nakano in 2005/6 and absolutely loved it, despite of some japanese-everyday-crazyness…) well, I’ve been to Tokyo three times again since then and will be there for two weeks in May. I am coming again with two friends of mine, one is gay and last time we explored Shinjuku 3-chome as we did a film project about homo/metrosexual men mostly in Kabukicho area so that is why we mostly went out in 3-chome. But I would love to know if there are other places/other areas or places/events that you would recommend – to explore gay/lesbian Tokyo. I am female, artist, from Berlin, Germany. γ‚γ‚ŠγŒγ¨γ†γ”γ‚„γ„γΎγ™γ€‚γΎγŸγ­γ€‚

    1. A movie about male hosts in Kabukicho? I would love to see it! Is it available online? For gay scene, I recommend Shinjuku’s Ni Chome for bars, sauna, etc. You can find a lot of info online. Or please ask me any questions.

  15. Hello. I’ve been following your blog for several months now (I think I found it in the course of yaoi or Japanese fashion-related searching) and have really enjoyed it. (I’ve learned about Donald Richie and Masaki Koh from you!) I hope that you and your husband are well, and I offer my condolences on the loss of someone you admired. (I’ve been looking up info on Masaki Koh and find his images to be lovely. Such beautiful, kind eyes. . .)

  16. I’m loving the images in this blog Jared. You are hilarious and I love reading about my old stomping ground, Nakano! If you have the time, please check out my own blog. I take to the Tokyo streets as a semi-naked Onigiri Man.

  17. I feel so blessed to have stumbled across a blog that indulges my passion for Rupaul, Yankiis, eyebrowlessness and homoerotic manga all in one place. Blonde ramen guy is a dreamboat. keep on keepin’ on!!! (I love you)

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